Why does one sided love hurts?


Sometimes loving someone is one of the most vulnerable positions in which you can be. You open your heart to another person and your best wish is for him or her to love you in return. Unfortunately, life is not a Nicholas Sparks movie; love isn’t always reciprocated, and it doesn’t always end in a happily ever after.

– By Samantha Bun

Love is never painful, it’s our expectations which hurt us. So if you love him/her without expecting anything in return, you can easily live your life. It’s not always about being in a relationship with someone, one can also feel the same in a friendship. It’s about how happy a person feels when they stay with you, the way you laugh with each other, they way you care for each other. That’s what matters the most.


A Tip-

When this happens with you will consider that one side love has only pain, pain, and more pain to offer. It hurts right in the heart to see the person walk by and not care a damn about you. Maybe they feel they are great and don’t deserve you. But remember you are wonderful and Gods beautiful creation. So please keep away from the people who seem to make you feel worthless. It is best for you to avoid them for your own good. Avoid visiting places where you might meet them. Remember when one door closes, another opens, so stop looking at the closed door and walk in the one that has opened for you.

– Aanchal

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99 thoughts on “Why does one sided love hurts?”

  1. Every time we make decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy but also can cause a great pain.
    But It isn’t love that hurts,
    Rejection hurts, Lack of trust hurts, Assumptions hurt, Expectations hurt, Lack of reciprocation hurt, Bieng ignored hurts.

    Nice Post, Aanchal 😊👍

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  2. One sided love is never easy. It puts you in grief all the time because your heart does not understand and keeps on expecting from the loved one. You get hurt every time your expectation is not fulfilled and your heart falls apart. You keep on trying to evoke the same feelings in the next person’s heart and don’t want to give up despite the closed door in front of you. Your ego hurts and your friends blame you for moving on but your love doesn’t let you do that. The only solution to this is patience. Do not blame yourself for indulging in this because you can not control your heart to fall for some particular person and not the other.

    When we have feelings for someone who we find out doesn’t feel the same way back, our first response is to ask what’s wrong with us. Hold up right there. Repeat after me – there is nothing wrong with me. Feels good doesn’t it? We’re so quick to find our flaws and blame them as the sole cause of not being loved back. We get down on our looks, our personality, our weird quirks and habits that actually make us beautifully us – there’s nothing wrong with them. Nothing.

    As hard as it is to accept it, they just don’t feel the same way about you. We’re all made differently and are wired to be attracted to some things and not others.

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  3. I’m cent of the agree with you Aanchal. It’s more often our expectations that make us feel jealous and hurt. If one controls his negative and expecting behaviour and just believe in unconditional love then he/she can achieve everything in life. ☺☺

    I loved your post Aanchal. Please keep writing more and more. I love reading you. 😘😘😘😄☺

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  4. Lovely and you care people who are in love! In a way, everyone in love! 😇
    But, at time the otherside does not know your love, or not in a position to accept your love the way you want. Things are not one sided! So, first understand and confirm the positions as much as possible. There could be breakthrough to get great love or great friends…! Keep loving, pains sometimes becomes sweet memories to cherish! So… go on, you will get loved!

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  5. Yes, it hurts, but if you think about it, there is something I recently learnt. One sided loves means that the person is giving their 100% of what they can offer, with a hope of cashing atleast 1% percent of it. But, in all totality, it is still beautiful if you consider how much the one loving offers. Yes, there is nothing in return, but what would it be if one expects it to be repaid. It is not a certain business deal in which we give and expect something in return. It’s more divine than that, that sharing of love even after knowing that it won’t be repaid, reciprocated is unconditional, don’t you think.
    If it is rejected, then yes, it hurts, but it also a sign that means that means to move on and find someone who respects and honors it. 🙂

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  6. One sided..😏
    But always try to extract the best within the worst.. acc. to me in this one sided game you can easily figure out your abilities, your worth

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  7. One sided love is the best thing one can do, where you just do things and don’t expect in return, guess what no expectations means no hurt, and no one can snatch your one sided feelings neither can affect them in any way! Beautifully written though!

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  8. This is so apt and perfect one. Yes its true if one door closes the others are open… It hurts when you love someone and he/she ignores you badly which you never want to happen…
    I liked your tip particularly which is to the point and practical as well… Good post indeed… 🙂

    And wishing you a very happy new year too… 🙂

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  9. Very well written Ms Aanchal ! But what bugs me , can you give me a ‘ TIP ‘ how to write a good book & then sell in the market on some #Blog ! Try reading my book : Journey from Guwahati to Machhiwara in 16 countries , 118 libraries India , 3 USA . Keep writing .


  10. Aanchal , your post touched my heart , I am a one sided lover and your name is very close to my heart
    because it’s my mother’s name and also my crush’s name😍😂😂😂

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